The 10 Secrets of a Happy Relationship

Posted by pim | Accessories, Relationship | Sunday 28 February 2010 10:43 pm

1. It starts with you

To paraphrase Abraham Lincoln, you are as happy as
you make up your mind to be. Research has shown that
happiness is a state of being, not of having or doing or
achieving. Nor is happiness a destination. People often
say, “I just want to be happy” or “I just want to have a
happy marriage” as if that is a future goal or place in
time. The problem is, they never get there. That’s
because the future is… in the future. And the only true
destination is your final day on earth. And then it’s too
late. So make the decision to be happier starting today.

There’s a relationship benefit as well. The happier you
are with yourself and your life, the more attractive you
are to your partner. Another way to look at this is: if you
were someone else, would you marry you? Start today to
work on being the kind of person you would want to
know, to date, and to marry. If you’re not that kind of
person now, how can you expect your spouse to stay
attracted or stay passionate?

2. There’s you, there’s him/her, and then there’s “we”.

You don’t have to give up your identity or be known
solely as your spouse’s partner.

It also doesn’t work when two people each do their own
thing without regard to their partner’s wishes and
feelings. Marriage is, and should be, more than
cohabitation. As the marriage vows state, “two shall be
as one”. That “one” is neither you nor him. The “one” is
a third entity: the relationship, the marriage, the “we”.

The “we” is what you share, what you have in common,
the support and nurturing that you cannot give yourself.
Think companionship, intimacy, and sharing.

3. You leave behind your emotional baggage

Are you really over your previous relationship? If not, you
can’t fully commit to your spouse. Likewise, if you are
still Daddy’s little girl or Mommy’s boy, you are not in
control of your own life. Therefore, you cannot fully enter
into an adult relationship of mutual sharing and support.
You can’t be accountable to your spouse if you still have
to please Mommy or Daddy.

You can’t reach new heights as a person as long as
you’re dragging around your emotional suitcases. And,
it’s not fair to your partner. If you’re dating but not in a
committed relationship right now, consider a time out
while you unpack those bags and resolve those issues
that keep you from being your own man or woman. If
you are committed, a relationship coach can help you
stow your baggage so you can be there completely for
your partner.

4. The marriage comes first

Marriage is supposed to be the strongest bond between
two people. Parents come and go; children grow and
leave. Your spouse is only person to stay with you the
rest of your time on this planet.

Women who say their children come first, usually can
never let the children grow up and become independent
adults because then the primary relationship in these
women’s lives would end. So the children never
emotionally leave home and are forever dependent on
the parent. This delights the women because they are
not willing to have their children grow up emotionally and
become independent adults.

Women who say their children come first also seem so
surprised when their mates eventually decide to leave for
someone else who WILL put them first. And finally, when
children are the center of a women’s life, and the
children eventually leave, the woman typically feels lost.
Her reason for existing the last 18-22 years has just
moved out. And if she should turn to her partner after a
20 year emotional abscense, it’s like going to your high
school reunion. You used to know them but its not the
same now because they’ve changed.

When partners put the marriage first, friends, relatives,
and acquaintences are still important but they’re not
primary. The man and woman, as the principals in the
relationship, are the combined heads of their household.
As such they look to eath other-and no one else-for their
primary comfort and support.

5. Your marriage is your top priority.

You didn’t get married to commute two hours a day,
work at the office 60 hours a week, and pay on a
mortgage for 30 years, did you? You probably got
married to share your life-not your bills-with that special
someone. During life’s ups and especially during life’s
downs, keep in mind why you married in the first place.
It wasn’t so you could get a better job, buy a better car,
or obsess over your favorite sports team. Once upon a
time, your partner was the most important thing in this
world to you. If you value your relationship, he or she
still is. Start acting like it again today and every day.

6. Don’t compare

This holds true in your life as well as in your marriage.
There will always be a couple that seems happier,
wealthier, sexier, and more perfect than you two are. So
what? Their happiness doesn’t increase or diminish your
happiness. Neither does their money, their jobs, their
house, or their prettiness. All that matters is whether you
for you.

7. Don’t wonder “what if?”

Wondering what it would be like to be with another
person-for a night or for a lifetime-is self-delusion and is
really unfair to your spouse. You see other people
socially when they are at their best. You see your spouse
when he/she is at his best, her average, and sometimes
at her worst. If you could swap mates, guess what?
You’d see that person at his/her worst, and you probably
wouldn’t like what you see. You already have a lot
invested in your partner. Take care of that investment.
The payoff is usally greater than starting all over again.

8. Realize that love can grow.

As much as you were in love when you got married, your
love and commitment to each other can grow over the
years. Despite all the old married jokes and cliches,
marriage can get better, not worse, with time. The
longer you’ve been married, the more history you have
together.The triumphs and disappointments, the
successes and the failures, all are part of sharing a life
together. And that history is unique to you. No one else
has that or can duplicate it. This is why a man who
leaves his middle aged wife for a younger woman
eventually wants to come back. With his wife he has a
history-a shared past. With the new woman there is only
the present. Leaving his wife permanently is like leaving
himself behind as well. Since she is a part of his past,
she is the best person to be a part of his future.

9. Commitment means “no matter what”.

It’s as simple as making the decision to be totally
committed to your spouse and to the relationship. No
matter what happens: financially, health wise, or
otherwise. No matter what. Once the two of you have
decided to stay “no matter what”, there is no question of
stay or go, yes or no.

Write this down: “ALL RELATIONSHIPS HAVE ISSUES”.
Happy relationships always have issues. Unhappy
relationships certainly have issues. It’s just that in happy
relationships, the couples identify the issues, negotiate
the issues, and come to terms with the issues. Couples
in unhappy relationships deny, ignore, put up, or run
away.
Once the two of you have made the decision “no matter
what” the emphasis is on the we. And, since we is not
you and not him, the only positions “we” have are the
ones you’ve decided together. In short, all problems are
negotiable because there are no his problems or her
problems. When one partner has a problem, just having
the problem should be a problem for the other partner.
Therefore, all problems are shared problems. Their
problems require their solutions.

10. Believe that a happy marriage is not only possible, it’s
yours for the making.

It won’t happen by itself. It takes intention, commitment,
and practice. But the many couples who have happy,
blissful, and satisfying marriages are proof that it is
possible. Just choose to be happy, and choose to be
happily married.
Yes, you’ll still have to work at it. But the rewards are so
much greater than the effort. Besdies, being single and
looking takes effort; being divorced and looking again
takes effort. Spend the effort inside your marriage and
stay married. Happily married.

Top 10 Reasons to Not Trust a Guy

Posted by pim | Relationship | Thursday 25 February 2010 1:42 am

If we all stick to the rules in the game of dating life would be smooth sailing rather than the battlefield of lies, deceptions, and betrayal. Men are man, but women often do the damage to themselves. Especially when they do not want to see through the signs or trust Mother Nature give to us all intuitions.

The top 10 reasons to not trust the man are simple. If we all adhere to the basic fundamentals of these helpful tips maybe less tears will be shed all over the world.

10. You know you can not trust a guy when all his friends know he has got a bit on the side or worst a long distant lover be it an emotional or physical relationship. It still spells disaster no matter how you look at it.

9. You cannot trust a guy when you have to resort to an entrapment pregnancy to hang onto him. I believe it soon after is called in the modern day language a “single mom”. Girls why would you think a man would want you with a child if they did not want you without a child. Some women if they are lucky end up with a daddy for their kid not a man for themselves.

8. You know you can not trust a guy when he never really claims you to the world, but instead your are running around claiming yourself much like someone who has the unfortunate position of being the last to know. It is double worrying if you have witnessed the woman before also running proclaiming their relationship when you knew from him they were over long before you came along. Definitely, not a good sign.

7. You want to be suspicious of a guy who at the start of your relationship suddenly piles on his work load making it so he has to be as many as 15 hours a day away from you. He is defiantly trying to put up some obvious barriers around himself there, especially when he does not need the money let say for instance.

6. When a guy wants instantly after the spit from another woman to be involved in the life of their x is sometimes ground to assume some signs are present. It is great when x’s can be friends, but when you have pursued the man and all he wants to do is work with his x-wife, his x-fiancé, and the woman he left his wife for and there is nothing you can do about it trust is to be questioned. Normally, it shows there is a lack of respect for your interests in the matter. Maybe, even some linger going on there.

5. A big sign that you cannot trust a man is when you never have “the discussion”. To be exact that would be an actual discussion in depth about being in a relationship together complete with future projections. Just shooting the breeze about how many kids one would like to have in a matter of factual manner is not the same thing as discussing the whole are we or we will be a couple. Some woman make the mistake of assuming a luring of the guy they are desperate for into bed instantly means they will be a couple. Hint ladies if a guy does not have the discussion within days maybe weeks of the one night stand than that was all it was. The risk of no discussion, but continued pursuits of the guy by you will only result in his taking as a friend. The dreaded friends zone women rarely make it back from.

4. While sex is discretionary when it comes to relationships, if you have sought to base your pursuit of a guy on sex and he refuses you with the exception of a one or two night stand a year later, really it would suggest a little time wasting on your part and clearly he is getting is emotional fill from somewhere else. Which is why there is not the physical interest in you. Woman who do not know, man are simple, but surprisingly when they are in love with a woman and that woman is not you they will be the most mystifying creatures on the earth.

3.You cannot trust a guy who is crazy in love with another woman. Come girls really is any man really worth your humiliation. This should be the big no no!

2. When he wants your kids and not you. This is especially important for single moms who want the guy so much, but in truth discover the guy just want their kids. This is very well depicted in the Gerry Maguire film starring Tom Cruise and Renee Zellwger. While a lesser woman would stoop so low as to maneuver the situation through the guys interest in her children even to the extent of convincing themselves that the affection for the children will somehow transfer from the guy to her. In real life that rarely happens and why put your kid through the emotional manipulation just because you can not land a guy.

1. When he leave his wife, but not for you. It is all and good well to fall in love, but when the matter involves wrecking a marriage. There can be the measure of waiting until a marriage naturally comes to an end. This is always best, because you know you will not be the rebound relationship. Secondly, a clear conscientious in knowing you had not shacked up with the guy before the divorce ink was dry. Worst mistake in this scenario is when you know or discover the guy did not leave his marriage for you, but instead has left the marriage for a woman he has been smitten with through out his now ended marriage. He will never be satisfied until he finally has that woman who by then he, of course, has made the only object of his desire.

These helpful tips should assist some woman with the navigation that is known in the world to us as the relationship. Ultimately, if you do not have self-respect you are going get the guy who will never respect you. He may hang with you, like your kids in some instances, but love never comes into it no matter how you try or throw yourself at him. Men are simple until women complicate things through avoidance of the realty. Nothing good come of refusals to accept things not being as fantasized it would be. What men are which does through off even the most astute of woman is unpredictable. When they love you too much like become like a deer in head lights, but when they do not love at all it really is time to turn towards greener pastures. There is always the fish and there is always the sea.

7 Types of Breakups Ranked by Recovery Time

Posted by pim | Relationship | Thursday 18 February 2010 11:04 pm

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Which element of a breakup dictates recovery time more: the type of breakup, or the person you broke up with? My theory is the type of breakup you experience determines how long it takes to get over it more than the actual person.

Here are 7 different types of breakups ranked byshortest recovery time to longest recovery time:

7. The Mutual Breakup

This is as peaceful a breakup as you can have, like when the entire family agrees it’s time to pull the plug on grandpa’s respirator: he is freed of his misery, and the family feels a sense of relief. I’ve never had a mutual breakup. I can’t catch that lightning in a bottle. But it can’t be that tough to recover from a mutual breakup and get back out in the dating scene again.

6. The Circumstantial Breakup

A cousin of the mutual breakup, the circumstantial breakup occurs when the environment around you won’t permit the relationship to continue: my parents hate you, you’re in Cali and I’m in NY (or even, you’re one town over), I need to be single for a while, etc. Recovery time is shortened because the other person offers an excuse that takes the focus off your weaknesses or unattractive qualities that could have caused a breakup.

5. The Ultimatum Breakup

The most common ultimatum leading to a breakup is: “ask me to marry you within the next year of I’m out of here.” Other conflicts could cause ultimatums as well: change your religion, get rid of that stupid old car, etc. Ultimatum breakups can be tough to get over because it’s annoying that a little compromise could have prevented it. But once it’s over, that pressure from the stalemate you reached in the relationship is gone, so it’s quite a relief.

4. The Something Someone Said Breakup

My friend broke up with his girlfriend he was dating for years, and he mentioned a conversation that occurred shortly before they broke up. They were discussing wedding rings, and she asked how much he’d spend. He simply hasn’t studied the “market” so he threw a number out there: “I don’t know, $5,000.” She scoffed and said: “You should spend no less than $20,000.”

He told me after she said that, he couldn’t think of her the same way anymore. In fact, it put a figurative “X” over her image in his eyes. They eventually broke up, and this conversation was the springboard. This type of breakup is painful because you wish you could take something you said or did back.

3. The I’ve Been Cheating

Whether you find out from them or some other way, it’s the ultimate betrayal when they are cheating on you. You can get over it because you dismiss this person as a cheating jerk, but you still feel stupid and you might spend several months envisioning the cheating or trying to regain faith in the opposite gender.

2. The First Love Breakup

The First Love breakup is one of the toughest to overcome. Some say you never get over it. This breakup teaches us that the world is a bigger place than we thought. There are more people to meet, there are bills to pay, there are places to go. Things just can’t stay the same as they once were.

Mine hit me when I got to college and my girlfirend stayed behind in high school. Eventually, we had to move on. The first love breakup is hurts so much because you’ve never experienced this feeling of loss and disappointment before. And, it’s part of growing up and growing up is usually a painful process.

1. The Blind Side

My friend recently blind sided his ex. After she cried for an hour, he decided he had put in enough time and he left. This is traumatic because it comes out of nowhere. The blind sider may have been thinking about it for months, and they conceal their intentions, then drop the bomb while everything seems to be going well. In fact, the couple may have spent time together the night before, but the blind sider did so out of obligation.

Blind Sides chip away at your ability to trust. If someone can break up with you when things seem to be going so well, you’ll have a tough time avoiding paranoia and trusting your new partners.

Your Relationship Sucks!

Posted by pim | Relationship | Monday 15 February 2010 4:02 am

youtube-sucksI suppose that headline sounds a little harsh, but screw it. I got a point to make and, by god, I aims to make it.

We were talking specifically about romantic relationships, but I think this applies to any type of interpersonal relationships as well. Friends, family, whatever. Is it just luck? Timing? An aligning of the stars?Kismet?

I think that the root of the problem (or success) is that you get what you give. So, in other words, if you have a good positive attitude, then you will attract good positive people back to you. And conversely if you give out a lot of negativity, then you’ll get negativity back. And, by the way, I’m not talking about some kooky, mystical super power that causes this. I’m talking about things I see every day.

Think about it. How much time do you really want to spend around someone who’s moping around all of the time and talking about how terrible their life is? I’m guessing… not that much. But if you have a friend who’s always in a good mood and having a good time, and joking around, or whatever it is, then don’t you prefer their company? I know it sounds obvious, but it seems to go over a lot of heads. Especially when I hear someone complain about their significant other, or about not having a significant other in the first place.

Romantic relationships are pretty similar to any other type of relationship you could have, but people don’t often view it that way. They think they need to act differently around their husband/wife/boyfriend/girlfriend than they do around their friends, which is awfully strange if you think about it. You’re essentially creating a separate persona that you have to maintain every time that person is around. Who the hell wants to do that?

I’d imagine that leads to a lot of frustration in the long run, and most likely a break up or an unhappy situation. And then more negativity. And then more bad relationships. And so on. Some people live off of negativity. They’ll even cause things to go wrong intentionally (maybe without knowing it) so that they can have something to complain about. And feel justified in doing it, because who’s really going to tell you that you’re being a big cry baby when something bad just happened to you?

So it’s understandable when I see it in others, but also a little baffling. I don’t know how many times I’ve heard someone say something along the lines of, “I’m a magnet for jerks”, and then thought to myself, “Well, yeah, you probably are.”

Now, I’m not trying to tell you that you should never feel down. Of course you’re going to have those moments. I’m just saying don’t let them take over your life. And for the record, you’re much better off being single than in a bad relationship. You probably already knew that, but I felt like it needed to be said. Just in case.

The bottom line is, if you want a good, strong, healthy, positive relationship then you need to start by being positive yourself, and then seek out someone positive to be with. Don’t settle for less. You’ll get back what you give out.

Sexy Valentine’s Day lingerie

Posted by admin | Fashion, Relationship, Romance | Wednesday 10 February 2010 4:06 am

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It’s something that isn’t really talked about, but we know it’s true. There’s lingerie for every aspect of your life and phase of your relationships. After all, the lingerie you wear at the start of a love affair isn’t necessarily going to be what you wear when you’ve been together for five years and have a baby. And who hasn’t devoted a section of their underwear drawer to first-time-with-a-new-guy bra and panty sets?

We consulted with Jennifer Carroll, co-author of the new book, Underneath It All: A Girl’s Guide to Buying, Wearing, and Loving Lingerie ($11.16, Harlequin), to come up with a guide to lingerie that matches your relationship status. Whether you’re single, seriously involved or happily married, here are your options:

Single and Not Seeing Anyone Right Now
So what if no one else will see your underwear? “Dress for the love life you want, not the one you’ve got,” advises Carroll. Here are some simple pieces that you can wear on a solo night at home to make you feel more sensual and in touch with your feminine side without feeling ridiculous. Looks like this will give you an extra boost of confidence, “just in case you meet Mr. Right,” says Carroll.

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From left: Jenna Leigh Maroma Deep Red Nightie ($125, jennaleighlingerie.com). Alfani Chemise, Back to Basics Modal ($7.99, macys.com). Kimchi Blue Polka Dot Slip ($48, urbanoutfitters.com)

Single and Dating
When you’re dating but not fully committed to someone, it’s a good idea to keep the more complicated items safe in your naughty drawer until things start getting serious. For the time being, stick with classy yet sexy separates. “Make sure your bra and panties match,” says Carroll. “Your date will appreciate the effort!” And in these styles, he’ll want to stick around to see what else you’ve got in your repertoire.

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From left: Striped Ruffle Bra ($7, charlotterusse.com) and Polkadot Two-Tone Ruffle Boyshort Panties ($3.50, charlotterusse.com). Felina: Harlow Full Busted Demi Bra ($32, barenecessities.com) and Felina: Harlow Low Rise G-String ($14, barenecessities.com). Flirty Lace Balconette Bra in pink ($24, express.com)  and Flirty Lace String Thong in pink ($12.50, express.com)

In a Relationship
Now that you’ve found someone, it’s time to up the ante. If you’re in a relatively new relationship, don’t bother with complicated closures and ties because your guy won’t wait long enough to delicately take these pieces off of you. Instead, stick with pieces that are hotter than your average bra and panty set, but are just as easy to remove. Carroll likes the simple addition of a garter belt and stockings, too. “Add them to any bra and panty set to heat things up on date night,” she says.

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From left: Brazilian Lace & Mesh Flyaway Babydoll ($32, fredericks.com). Leopard Babydoll Set ($21.95, yandy.com). Cut-Out Halter Babydoll ($35, victoriassecret.com)

Engaged
He proposed! Or you proposed! Either way, now’s the time to show your fiancé what he’s committed to for the rest of his life – and that’s you in all your sexy glory. Carroll says, “Engage him with the promise of things to come in bustiers, corsets and thigh-highs.” He will instantly know he’s made the right choice when he sees you in one of these scandalous little numbers.

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From left: Love Red Love Basque ($370, agentprovocateur.com). Reversible Satin Corset with Dot Net Ruffle ($49.90, lingeriediva.com). Lace Garter Set ($42.99, yumdrop.com)

Married or Living Together
Sure, the honeymoon may be over, but that doesn’t mean you should retire your collection of negligees. The bedroom only gets boring if you let it, says Carroll. “Ditch the fun run T-shirt for sleeping and go for a silky chemise or gown. Also, invest in some lacy, racy bras and a fantasy outfit — like a naughty maid — for dress-up!”

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From left: Farr West Lace Trim Full Slip ($80, nordstrom.com). Tickle Me Maid ($39.95, 3wishes.com). Gilda and Pearl Garbo Underwired Demi Bra ($43, figleaves.com)

Thank you Source: BettyConfidential.com, shine.yahoo.com

Birthstone Jewel

Posted by daony | Jewelry Wholesale, Relationship, Romance | Tuesday 9 February 2010 5:43 am

 

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January’s Birthstone: Garnet

    Garnet is a remarkable gemstone, in that it is found in all colors except blue. The best known garnet is a deep red colored stone.
Legend holds that garnet protects travelers against accidents, and protects its owner from nightmares. It is also dubbed the gem of faith, constancy and truth.
    Garnet is the accepted birthstone for the month of January. It is also the accepted anniversary gemstone for the 2nd year of marriage.

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February’s Birthstone: Amethyst

    Considered the gem of royalty, amethyst ranges in color from pale lilac to nearly black purple. The deep medium purple with rose colored flashes are the most valuable.
    Legend holds that amethysts were able to dissipate evil thoughts and quicken the intelligence. They are also a symbol of sobriety, peace and tranquility.
    Amethyst is the recognized birthstone for February, and the accepted anniversary gemstone for the 6th year of marriage.

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March’s Birthstone: Aquamarine

    Aquamarine ranges in color from pale to medium blue, sometimes with a slight hint of green. The ideal color of aquamarine is a refreshing sea blue – not too pale or too green. It is a member of the beryl family, which also includes emerald.
    Aquamarine is the traditional birthstone for the month of March. It is also the accepted anniversary gem for the 19th year of marriage.

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April’s Birthstone: Diamond

    Although diamonds are associated with being clear or colorless gemstones, they are occasionally found with a strong bright color – green, red, pink, blue, canary yellow and amber. These “fancy colored diamonds” are highly prized.
    Traditionally, the diamond is the accepted birthstone for the month of April. It is also the accepted anniversary gemstone for the 10th and 60th years of marriage.

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May’s Birthstone: Emerald

    Emerald is one of the most highly prized of all the gems. The more vivid the green, the more valuable the emerald. Most emeralds have internal inclusions, or flaws, and are thus treated with fillers to mask the cracks and enhance the stone’s brilliance. When purchasing an emerald, you should make sure that fissures and inclusions do not go too deep into the stone, so that it would be weakened enough to break if it were hit accidentally.
    Emerald is the accepted birthstone for the month of May, and the accepted anniversary gemstone for the 20th and 35th years of marriage.

Alexandrite

June’s Birthstone:  Alexandrite

    Alexandrite is one of the most fascinating gemstones throughout history. It actually changes color from green in daylight, to red in incandescent light.    
     Alexandrite has a distinguished and glamorous past. It was discovered in 1830 in czarist Russia, and was named after Czar Alexander II, on the occasion of his coming of age.
    Alexandrite is an excellent stone to wear everyday because it is very hard. It is one of the accepted birthstones for the month of June, and the accepted anniversary gemstone for the 55th year of marriage.

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July’s Birthstone: Ruby

    Ruby has been the world’s most valued gemstone for thousands of years. In fact, rubies today are still more valuable and rare than even the top quality colorless diamond. Ruby, like sapphire, is a variety of corundum, and only exists as a true red in color.
    In ancient times, the highest quality rubies were said to protect their owners from all kinds of misfortune. A fine ruby assured the owner he would live in harmony with his neighbors. It would protect his stature in life, his home and his land. It’s protective powers were intensified when set in jewelry, and worn on the left side.
    Ruby is the accepted birthstone for the month of July. It is also the accepted anniversary gemstone for the 15th and 40th years of marriage.

Peridot

Augusts’ Birthstone: Peridot

    Peridot is one of the few stones found in only one color- bright, light green. The shade of green can vary from a light yellowish green to an olive brownish color.
    In ancient times, it was believed that peridot had the power to drive away all evil, creating a state of restfulness for its wearer. That power was considered to be even more intense when the stone was set in gold. Peridot was also thought to bestow wisdom and courage.
    Peridot is the accepted birthstone for the month of August. It is also the accepted anniversary gemstone for the 16th year of marriage.

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September’s Birthstone: Sapphire

    Sapphire comes in all colors except red (the red variety being known as ruby), but is especially popular in deep blue. the other colors of sapphire can be just as beautiful and rare, or even rarer, than the blue but they are usually priced less because of lower demand. Yellow, orange, lavender and other pastel shades are especially affordable.
    Ancient priests and sorcerers honored sapphire above all gems, for this stone enabled them to foretell the future. Marriage partners put great faith in the stone. If its luster dimmed, one knew his or her spouse had been unfaithful. According to legend, sapphire refused to shine when worn by the wicked or impure.
    Sapphire is the traditional birthstone for the month of September. It is also the accepted anniversary gemstone for the 5th and 45th years of marriage.

Opal

October’s Birthstone: Opal

    Opals are flashy stones that capture the colors of the rainbow deep within themselves. There are many different varieties and colors of opals, like dark or black opals, white or light opals, milk or crystal opals, mexican or fire opals. Within each of those varieties, the brilliance of the “play of color” is the most important factor in determining its value. Black opal has the most brilliant colors and is the most valuable. The milky white opal is the better recognized and most affordable type of opal because the play of colors is more diffused.
    Opal has symbolized hope, innocence and purity through the ages. In the Middle Ages, opal was considered a stone that could provide great luck because it was believed to possess all the virtues of each gemstone whose color was represented within the opal.

Citrine

November’s Birthstone: Citrine

    Known for it’s bright and sunny golden glow, shades of citrine will range from yellow, to gold, to orange brown. Most citrines on the market today start their lives as amethysts, and are then heated to turn their color to a permanent bright yellow.
    Citrine is one of the accepted birthstones for the month of November, as well as the accepted anniversary gemstone for the 13th year of marriage.

Tanzanite

December’s Birthstone: Tanzanite

    Tanzanite is recognized for its vivid blue/purple color. Shades of purple range from pale lilac to deep intense violet blue. When tanzanite is found in the ground, a bronze color dominates. It is only when heated that the violet/blue color we all know comes out.
    Tanzanite is was named after its country of origin by Tiffany & Co in New York, who also introduced the gemstone to the world market in 1969. Coming from only one location, tanzanite is a rare gem – even rarer than diamond – and supply is limited compared to many other gemstones. Owning a piece of jewelry set with this unusual gemstone truly makes its owner feel unique and special.

Valentine ’s day – For everyone you love

Posted by admin | Relationship, Romance, Silver Jewelry | Monday 8 February 2010 1:51 am

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10 sleep poses told your love’s life.

Posted by daony | Relationship, Romance | Monday 18 January 2010 5:35 am

     The love story is between two people. It’s a life partner. Some partners are loving and happy hopes fulfilled.

     But some partners together with the fall. Today, we love to see you how refreshing and happy you are…

     The view from the “sleep activities” which are activities that couples together the longest time. To see what kind of you and your lover.

     1. Fork & Spoon Poses

     A real happiness of your life. Which represents the squire’s your man. Shown that is your comfortable. Make couples closer together. Indicate a good time with your man take care of you feel. As you enter your spouse together in the first 3-5 years of marriage. 

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     2. Honey Moon Sweet Poses     This is the real happiness of the couple. Both you and happy couples sleeping together facing one another soulfully. You may enter a sick players for both you and your sweetheart, but the patient is in bed for demonstrating. Love you both with each other. A period that sweet snap of wedlock during the first begin Loria Moon suites. Know that now. You and your sweetheart could not sleep this situation together. To try to return to sleep situation is with each other it is tinged love life is not bad ever.

 

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     3. Snuggle Poses     The man is facing tilt to sleep and you lie facing each tilt. Found in the initial period of marriage, although not as sweet snap that other portals. However, indicate that care to protect man to offer you. While there is freedom in your own thoughts and decisions can have in life that you want.

 

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     4. My Sweet Heart Poses

     You are fortunate to not be alone in the world. This world is happy with the love of two people. This one like Snuggle Poses but you and him more closely. Warmth of touch adjacent sent through closer together. You will be protected as well.

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     A woman, 35, one story was that during her ill treatment of breast cancer that she felt disappointment, but her husband is waiting inside and she always encouraged by his hand and soothe her with a hug and sexual situation. This makes her feel good, encouraged to continue to fight.

     Although you can not sustain itself smack in the bed throughout the night but sleep and a good morning when you awake before you begin to burn. Both you and your sweetheart should return to bed clinch at least in this situation is instead set many words you want to say that love him or love her.

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5. Lean forward 1 (Your Turn)

This poses indicates the body of your relatively good. You are very confident in themselves are relatively high and couples parties guide your life. Man is concerned about care of your oily look. And perhaps you could allow a person holding purse to was a fortunate of you.

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     6. Have a Break Poses

     Your love life is not that sweet but not trite snap. Your relationships and couples are intimately well. Sometimes you may feel that you have good friends over. Both you and him are disclosed together. But both you and him are the same planet. Couples that love each other this long, although it is not noticeable any more.

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     7. Lean forward 2 (His Turn)

     Your love life may be sweet but not much interruption. Couples have your personal world. Always look on something you do to those annoying, such as restaurants like the beauty of your couples tend to focus more work and sometimes you usually do not have time for you but you love your sweetheart and care more. The fix is your understanding and restraint your mind.

 

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     8. Questions Poses (Have Problem)

     May be time to ask that question. “You still love him?, He still love you?” You and him may disagree or argue with each other about the nonsensical. A difficult time if both are the personal world. The simple fix you. “Change youy sleep poses “.

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     9. Your Way My Way Poses

     You and they sleep the same bed, but hearts are not all the same bed together. You are your world, while he himself is his world, both you and your partner may be married, but the mesh is seen your comment and not understanding him out. May be the proper time to talk. At least they should remember the good times of family life.

The Cliff Hanger

     10. The Cliff Hanger Poses

     This image would not say much. May be last night both of you might drink too much!!!!

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Lovely meaning of flowers.

Posted by daony | Relationship, Romance | Wednesday 13 January 2010 7:17 am

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-Orchid: Informant loves that. “I could not be forbidden to miss her.
-Jasmine: Chaste and gentle instead of meaning “she is the best I love most hallowed” or “high-class woman who is her elegance and respectability.
-Lilly: Instead of pure love mellow sensitive world. “She is my first love”.

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Tulip: A headlong fall in love means. Love and temporarily reduce rapidly.

- Various colors Tulip in the same bouquet means. “Her beautiful eyes, makes me very mad.”
- Red Tulip “like the world to know that I love her.”
- Yellow Tulip “I am disappointed in love.”

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Rose

-Pink Roses means elegance and urbanity.
-Yellow roses. “Please let me to be your paramour” “We adulterous spiritual” and means happy or cheer.
      -Orange roses to tell their brave and love is in the past.

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-Red and white roses together in one bouquet. Meaning to know. “We are unified.”
-White roses say “I love her with a pure heart. Do not expect anything return “.

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-Dark red roses (colors like red wine) instead of the word, “she is exceedingly beautiful.”
-Single Rose instead of meaning. “Although I love simplicity. But stability alone with her.

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-Roses and leaves are budding and spine tells you that, “Although I will address some concerns. But know that she would not decline. ”
-Hybrid Roses blast that leaves left out. Shows that providers are all not be all things to be afraid.
-Hybrid Roses blast that left no burr. Demonstrated a very promising filled.
-Young red roses. Demonstrated that naive love. “I just love the girl. And naive “.
-Young white roses. Represents a captivating charm. Naive about love.

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-Roses bloom of flowers and roses 2 blast not want that, “This is love that I hide it.”
-Blooming red roses tell you that “I love her to then”.
-Red roses and wax. He would let you know. “Our love was finished”.
-White roses instead of the wax and then the meaning “to charm her, and then reduce it”.
-Thornless roses to know that “she never lost the charm should flow even watch first.”

Want to Lose Your Girlfriend Forever? Then Don’t Read This Shocking Revelation

Posted by pim | Relationship | Wednesday 6 January 2010 1:00 am

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Welcome guys. Let’s get right into it. It’s the little things that you don’t even think about or do consciously that builds up tension in your girlfriend and one day you come back from work, not a worry in the world, only to walk into an emotional storm big enough to bring in the next ice age.

“What on earth is going on?”, I can hear you think. Believe me man, I’ve been there as well. If you want to know how to get your girlfriend back, you will find some incredible value in the rest of this article.

Okay, so your girlfriend doubtless will not walk out on you as you left your socks on the floor, but that does not imply there aren’t still some critical factors that, if ignored, might have her going to the door. Even if you believe you know what makes your girlfriend tick, you may be surprised at some of the things you’ve been overlooking.

1) Express your love!

I know what you’re thinking: “But I do show my love! I bought her a…” Stop right there! Sadly, material gifts and even the quantity of time and energy you spend helping go right over some girls’ heads. Many women don’t actually feel loved unless they hear “I love you” fairly frequently.

No, your girlfriend hasn’t forgotten all of the nice things you have done, she just thinks maybe your emotions have changed since then. Yeah, that is right: since yesterday. See, the thing is, girls continually re-assess their relations. Men tend to get comfortable and presume if there are no fights, then everything’s dandy. That’s exactly how so many guys get blindsided by break ups introduced with “Honey, we need to talk”.

So go forward and let her know in so many words that you adore her. If you have got a tough time saying it, write a little note and slip it in her wallet or stick it on the rest room mirror. If that’s still a little too uncomfortable for you, make a point of thanking her for something routine like making dinner or recognizing something she’s done well. This way you already seperate yourself miles ahead of the guys who are now wondering “how to get my girlfriend back”.

2) Listen!

Imagine beginning an important conversation with your girlfriend or wife only to note her staring into space as you talk. Wouldn’t you feel a little rejected? This is the same situation plenty of girls face with their partners or partners, who regularly do not even notice they’re spacing out. When you are girlfriend talks, try to set aside what your doing and truly listen.

That does not imply you are not permitted to have some quiet time to oneself, though. Whether you are attempting to finish a dispatch for work the day after or just need to watch the game, if you gradually explain that you’d rather have the chat at a later time, a real woman will give you your space.

3) Use honesty wisely!

As much as we may need to believe truth is the best policy, anyone with a little life experience will tell you it isn’t always. While outright lies are a no-no, a little tact and diplomacy can go a good distance towards keeping peace in the house.

What that implies is the right answer to “Do I look fat in this?” isn’t “No, you look ten pounds lighter”, but something like “Cannot say, you look good to me regardless of what you wear”. Sound corny? Try it sometime and I bet you may like the result. Being tactful doesn’t mean you must keep quite about things that actually bother you, though. It is better to bring issues to light than let your antagonism cook and risk blowing up at her one day.

When both partners are willing have a little patience and keep an unblinkered attitude, love relationships don’t have to been crammed with frustration and drama. Get some good relationship recommendation for men, from the right source and your relationships should be smooth sailing from here on out.

Simple Things You Can Do To Put The Spark Back In Your Relationship

Posted by pim | Accessories, Relationship | Wednesday 23 December 2009 3:02 am

In most relationships it isn’t huge issues that are causing the rift but more everyday, mundane things that can easily be remedied with a little effort. Here are a few things you can try to give your relationship a breath of fresh air.

One of the simplest things that one can do to prevent the passion from slipping away in your relationship is to care about your own appearance and hygiene. I mean, you have to care about how you look if you want your partner to care. That only makes sense. Doesn’t it?

Take the time to notice little things and compliment your partner on how they look. Tell them how much you appreciate it when they do something that is normally taken for granted, like cooking a meal or even taking out the trash. A kind word can go a long way to reigniting lost passion. There is a book called, “The Five Love Languages” that goes over this and four other things you can do to keep passion alive in your relationship.

Sometimes just the idea of a romantic vacation together can help to spark your relationship. Just take the time out on an afternoon and sit together making a list of places that you want to go together. This kind of daydreaming together helps solidify the relationship and make each partner feel more secure, which leads to greater intimacy.

Plan time for each other on a daily basis to keep the spark  passion from going out, and to get it back if you have lost it. Everyone has the same 24 hours in a day and the couples that last are the ones that take time for each other and don’t make excuses.

One of my personal favorites is taking baths or showers together! If you do this on a regular basis it is almost impossible to lose the passion in  your relationship. Bathing each other is a very sensual activity and allows you to give to each other while relaxing at the same time. Try it, I promise you’ll like it.

Just because your relationship is starting to lose its passion doesn’t mean the relationship is finished. All of the examples above are easy ways that a couple can utilize to reawaken the passion in their relationship. As long as you still love each other, it is possible to bring back the passion and if you do the things I am suggesting that you do, you will never lose it.

WARNING! Men are strictly prohibited from trying to understand this CODE.

Posted by Richard | Gossip, Relationship, Romance | Monday 21 December 2009 4:12 am

WARNING! Men are strictly prohibited from trying to understand this CODE.

Step 1. First, the “bend and snap” – a broken nose is the best way to get closer. If it’s not love at first sight and the catchiest snap, then go to

Step 2. Money. When he invites you to a restaurant tell him that you’ve got fascinating earrings and haven’t got a necklace to put on with an absolutely stunning dress you found in Vogue but haven’t, by the way, bought yet. He will buy them both while he’s in love. And afterwards, when he wakes out of the trance, he will count how much money he’s invested in you and will have a fierce desire to legalize his investment by marrying you. If it’s not enough for his liberality, go to

Step 3. Jealousy. Use the men’s primitive mentality, “If somebody else’s interested, then I’m interested, too. If nobody is interested, then this woman/girl is not worth even looking at.” So, show him that there are at least two more candidates thirsty for your hand/body/love/benevolent glance. Send a bouquet of flowers with a card for yourself and tell him that you are tired of this admirer. If he appears too depressed by your non-existent caballero, go to

Step 4. Food. What is the single’s “every day’s special”? It’s coffee at work and gherkins at home. That is why they are easily baited with good home-cooked food. Which does not necessarily mean that you will spend the rest of your life cooking for him. Let’s say till you get married, that’ll do. Most cases end up in marriages after a satisfying dinner, but if it’s not enough, especially if the man lives with his mother, press him next, and go to

Step 5. Hysterics. From time to time go into hysterics making pauses to become a really nice bunny. Such unpredictable behavior stimulates and interests men. If he still resists, and you do not break up, carry heavy metal – go to

Step 6. Lewinsky’s trick. But do it for a marriage not for publicity. If he doesn’t kill you, he will marry you. If not, and you are still alive, then go to

Step 7. Pregnancy. Pretend that you are pregnant (and you’d better obtain real pregnancy after a marriage just in case your man appears to be a nasty bastard). Oh, don’t worry about your little cheat. He won’t check anything (at least if he does, there’s always the way out to say, “Oops! False alarm!”). But still the former is more likely just because male’s brain is adjusted to stop working once the ears hear the words, “I’m pregnant”. And a sudden fear/euphoria literally enforces a man to make a proposal. So, if he believes you he will marry you.

And finally, if you get through to the seventh step and at last he asks you to marry him, think, whether you really want to marry this manipulated by a woman, wasteful and depressed mamma’s darling with a broken nose! So, do not take this algorithm seriously.

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